People who dwell on negative ideas accomplish little things. They work less and seldom say ‘yes’ to other people.
I was once a negative thinker. The pessimistic type of person who expected the worst in every situation. Give me a task, and I’d refuse because I’m afraid things might not go the way they should. Show me an opportunity to excel, and I’d say “no” thinking I can’t do it, and that I’m not good enough, not even capable enough to try it.
I only took notice of this when I heard myself saying “no, no, no” to almost every idea or suggestion given to me. I wouldn’t be surprised if I was labeled as the girl who always says “no” that time.
It was difficult for me to change that attitude. I knew back then that saying “yes” would require extra effort later on. Extra time would then me demanded of me. It took me some time to hold my tongue from saying no so I could think and change the way I see things.
I was becoming stagnant. I decided to change. I became more determined to look at things differently. I started being a person of hope instead of discouragement. You see, saying an instant ‘no’ to suggestions without any explanations can put an immediate discouragement to people who gave the suggestions. Obviously, I’ve brought heavy discouragements to people who have trusted me, yet heard me say “no”.
The truth is that there’s always a better way to look at things. A person may look at the color black as death and dark forces while others may see it as a stylish and elegant when used by women (like how I see black). It’s the same when we look at problems and trials. We can try for once to start looking at these problems and trials the other way around. Let’s look at them as tools to make us better persons, sharpened and ready for better things ahead of us.
Have you recently turned down every moment to grow? Well, start considering what others say. Look at things the other way around and say ‘yes’ to the challenges ahead. Stop being the very person that stops your growth by saying “no” to every great opportunity that comes your way.
This is a repost. Originally posted December 1, 2010