Orphans, Charities, and Support Groups

I was helping my 6 yr old son review for a quiz last night and the topic of their lesson in Character Education was about loving your neighbors. The topic talked about how you can show your love to others by donating clothes, goods, helping the community, and visiting orphanages and home for the aged.

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I knew he didn’t understand what orphanage and home for the aged were. He told me they discussed it in school and that his classmate told him something about it.

That is when our talk got deeper.

I explained to him that orphanage is a place for kids who don’t have parents anymore. He said, “Oh, if your mommy and daddy works in a far place, then the kids go there?” I had to explain to him the different situations of why kids are left in an orphanage. “Why would parents leave their babies?”, he said. My mind was crying, “I know, right!?!”

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It became sadder when we went to the topic of the home for the aged. He cried. The thought of old people or of us, his parents, being in there was unacceptable for him. He felt sad at the thought that old people are there without families and that nurses or other people are the ones taking care of them. I felt sad about it too. I just told him that there are different reasons why people do this.

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Then we reached to the part of the lesson that charity should be done in love.

He told me that he didn’t know he had to do it in love before and that he was just giving or doing good. I told him that it was okay and he did it for a good cause in mind and that is already love.

I explained further that nowadays, some people do charity works for their own selfish reasons like: to be known, to make people follow them, or sometimes, just so that people will see them as good to hide the bad things that they are doing.

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The leaving of babies, the abandoning of parents in the home for the aged (not everyone, I mean some people are visited…it’s about those that have been forgotten), the carrying out of selfish desires that people do to put charity as fronts-–these are all hard for kids to accept. My son had this big question of why people would do such a thing. It was so innocent.

I simply told him that people had reasons why they did it and mainly because they felt their problem was too heavy for them and that no one could help them. Maybe they don’t have God or that they don’t know God and the great things he can do in order to transform people’s lives. That is why we need to share and tell them the good news that there is hope when they have God in their lives.

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Maybe the mothers left their babies in the orphanage or someone else’s front door because they thought they were hopeless. Maybe they felt it was already the end of their lives, careers, or dignities.

But just like in the Psalm of David during his troubled times, he said:

many are saying of my soul,
“There is no salvation for him in God.

But you, O Lord, are a shield about me,
my glory, and the lifter of my head.

I cried aloud to the Lord,
and he answered me from his holy hill.

I lay down and slept;
I woke again, for the Lord sustained me.

I will not be afraid of many thousands of people
who have set themselves against me all around.

Psalm 3:2-6
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We are not the only ones who have experienced hardships before. Men and women in the old times have experienced them too. God did not promise a life without storms, but he did promise us that he will be there throughout the storms of our lives. He is close to the brokenhearted, that he will answer and that he will sustain us. =)

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If you are in a difficult situation pray and ask God for strength and to lead you to people who could help you in your situation.

Support Groups

Support group can also be a great way to lighten up the load you are carrying, whether emotionally, financially, or physically? haha Anyway, you can search for people who can listen to you in these sites:

http://www.ccf.org.ph/discipleshipgroup/ –  CCF provides an online support group if you need one.

If you are in Jeddah, there are meet-ups (from hobbies to business meet-ups) happening here that might be of interest to you. You can check them here: https://www.meetup.com/cities/sa/jiddah/

If you know more support groups here in Jeddah or in your area, you can leave your links below plus the location.

Red Sea, Jeddah (Saudi Arabia)


If you are reading this and you have lost a mom, dad, or both (for some reasons, whether natural or out of family problems), I want to share this verse to you as a promise from God:

“If you love me(Jesus), you will keep my commandments. And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, to be with you forever, even the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees him nor knows him. You know him, for he dwells with you and will be in you.

“I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you. Yet a little while and the world will see me no more, but you will see me. Because I live, you also will live.

In that day you will know that I am in my Father, and you in me, and I in you. Whoever has my commandments and keeps them, he it is who loves me.

And he who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I will love him and manifest myself to him.”

John 14:15-21

That’s all. It’s so good to finally find time to write again. 🤗🤗

Happy New Year by the way. 😃

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4 thoughts on “Orphans, Charities, and Support Groups

  1. the thought of parents abandoning their kids also bothers my kids. they can’t get their heads to wrap around it and I guess they can ”connect” to these kids because they’re also ”kids” and know they are reliant to adults.

  2. Kudos to these support groups, at least babies are given the opportunity to live and experience life. It is just too bad it is not with his/her own parents.
    I personally can’t imagine abandoning my babies, but others do have their reasons.

  3. Support groups are heaven sent, of course only if and when they are regulated and monitored. As for me, I don’t dwell on the problem but on the solution. If moms/dads leave their kids, I think what we should ask ourselves is, How can we help? Thank you for this post it’s really a good read. 🙂

  4. Good to know that there are many support groups nowadays. I really can’t understand those parents abandoning their own child, sobrang nakakalungkot 🙁

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